Same-sex spouses, who cannot divide their labor based on preexisting gender norms, must approach marriage differently than their heterosexual peers. From sex to fighting, from child-rearing to chores, they must hammer out every last detail of domestic life without falling back on assumptions about who will do what. In this regard, they provide an example that can be enlightening to all couples. Critics warn of an institution rendered “genderless.” But if a genderless marriage is a marriage in which the wife is not automatically expected to be responsible for school forms and child care and dinner preparation and birthday parties and midnight feedings and holiday shopping, I think it’s fair to say that many heterosexual women would cry “Bring it on!”
Gay marriage can function as a controlled experiment, helping us see which aspects of marital difficulty are truly rooted in gender and which are not. A growing body of social science has begun to compare straight and same-sex couples in an attempt to get at the question of what is female, what is male. Some of the findings are surprising.
Fantastic, necessary article by Liza Mundy on what gay couples can teach us about healthy, happy marriages as society’s conception of marriage in general continues to evolve.
Even the penguins can attest.(via explore-blog)
The Lannisters are red,
Edmure’s balls are quite blue.
If you ain’t read the books
Next ep should be fun for you
Being a Nerd is taking the time to really understand what goes on in the world instead of just riding the planet through space. When I was a little boy, people really teased us about that and made us feel like there was something wrong with us for loving [science, board games, books, etc.]. I think a lot of us have realized that being a nerd or a geek…is not about what you love, but how you love it. So there’s going to be a thing in your life: sports, science, reading, fashion design, building things, telling stories, or taking pictures; the way you love that thing, and the way that you find other people that love that thing in the same way you do…that’s what makes being a nerd awesome. Don’t ever let anybody tell you that the thing that you love is something that you’re not allowed to love.—
This is someone who has access to countless billions of galaxies, across the entire sweep of history from beginning to end — and he faces threats that are basically the Nazis writ large, or technology taken to its most awful extreme. Huge, malevolent forces that would crush everyone in sight if the Doctor wasn’t throwing a spanner into their works.— The Central Problem With Steven Moffat’s Doctor Who
The process of moving the Doctor to the center of the universe began under Russell T. Davies, who destroyed Gallifrey and turned the Doctor into the “Last of the Time Lords,” and thus incidentally into “the lonely god.” But the Doctor still met megalomaniacs with their own goals, and Davies’ finales tended to be about things like “Davros wants to wipe out the universe” or “the Master wants to turn Earth into a twisted new Gallifrey,” not so much “the Doctor’s death or lack thereof shatters the universe.— The Central Problem With Steven Moffat’s Doctor Who